Listen, I know what you’re thinking. “I love the idea of wedding photos, but I have no idea how to be in them.” Maybe you feel awkward in front of a camera, maybe the thought of being professionally photographed all day makes you mildly panic, or maybe you’re just wondering if you’re going to look like you in your wedding photos. I get it. But here’s the thing—you don’t need to do anything. Not really. Your only job on your wedding day is to live it. To soak up every moment, to laugh, to cry, to marry your person and have the best day of your actual life. The rest? That’s my job.

A good photographer doesn’t just take photos—they capture you, exactly as you are. The joy, the nerves, the real moments that make your wedding yours. And the best way to get wedding photos you actually love? Forget about the camera entirely. Focus on him. Your new husband. The way he looks at you, the way he squeezes your hand when you’re emotional, the way he does that ridiculous dance move after two glasses of champagne. Because that’s what your wedding is about. Not perfectly angled poses or worrying about whether you’re standing in the “right” light—but just being in the moment with him. That’s where the magic is.

I know you’ve spent months planning every detail, but once the day arrives, let it go. Whatever happens, happens. Your dress might get a little dirty, the confetti might go straight in your mouth, the flower girl might decide to faceplant at a crucial moment—but you’ll laugh, and that’s the good stuff. I’ll be there, quietly documenting it all, so you can relive it forever. But for now? Live it. Hug your people. Dance like nobody’s watching (because honestly, nobody is—they’re too busy dancing badly themselves). And trust me when I say, when you look back on your wedding photos, you won’t be thinking about whether you posed “right.” You’ll just remember the way it felt. And it’s going to feel incredible.

So breathe. Relax. Let go of the idea of perfect and just enjoy the ride. Because this? This is going to be the best day of your life. And I’ll make sure you never forget it.